I got this here. . . -
http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/01/why-are-women-so-strange-and-men-so-weird.htmlBut I point-formed it to highlight the important notes.
Why Are Women So Strange and Men So Weird?
- Did you know that men and women speak in completely different languages, so much so that we may feel we are speaking to someone from another planet?
"Men and women THINK differently" (I AGREE)"Men and women SPEAK differently" (I AGREE)"Men and women DECIDE differently" (I AGREE)MEN THINK COMPARTMENTALLY AND WOMEN THINK GLOBALLYMEN : Tend to separate details and store them in different “compartments”, much like a file-cabinet-drawer
system, such as (in random order): Work, Hobbies, Wife, Sex, etc.
Cognitively speaking, men tend to open and close “drawers” needed for the immediate moment, staying exclusively in that one compartment, and nothing else even exists except for what is in that compartment.
WOMEN : Tend to do the complete opposite and connect things up, seeing life more globally. Women see how details and data have underlying and interrelated connections.
WOMEN's THINKINGGLOBAL THINKING : Ladies, have you ever called your husband or partner to ask him to pick something up at the grocery store on his way home, only for him to arrive home empty-handed? That’s because he was in the “work” compartment, focusing exclusively on getting the job done, where nothing else exists but his work.
(I AGREE, they either say they're not selling or they say, "Oops I forgot! Why never remind me again ?")GLOBAL THINKING : Have you ever tried to talk to your husband or partner about something you felt was important while he is focusing his attention on the football game? Doesn’t work out too well, does it?
(I TOTALLY AGREE, it doesn't have to be focusing on football game. . . it could be just about anything. . . They are just reluctant to acknowledge that they're hearing other than saying "Ah...ah..." while looking somewhere else.. )MEN's THINKING
COMPARTMENTAL THINKING : Men, have you ever gotten into a disagreement with your wife or partner about something, and she brings up stuff that happened months ago? You likely stood there looking at her with the “deer in the headlights” sort of look wondering, What in the world does THAT have anything to do with THIS?
COMPARTMENTAL THINKING : You have a disagreement with your wife or partner in the morning before leaving for work, and later that evening you’re feeling a bit frisky, only to get the “I’ve got a headache” schpeal? That’s because she’s thinking globally, connecting and intertwining details and data as they relate to one another. She’s been simmering and stewing all day long about the disagreement, probably thinking of all the things she intends to say when you arrive home, and now you want to get all lovey-dovey?
HOW DO MEN AND WOMEN SPEAK DIFFERENTLYMEN : Speak in short phrases with little or no details, whereas women speak in paragraphs, giving lots of story-like details. Men want and need the “bottom line” first, while women want and need details, details, details.
(I AGREE! That's the reason why I have to ask whenever he's telling me stories bout work. . . Otherwise I won't understand. . . But when I'm talking, he never once stop me to ask question cause he claims that he can repeat whatever I told him earlier. . . By the way. . . Being able to repeat doesn't mean understanding it. . .)WOMEN : . Women enjoy the suspense of working up to the bottom line, for the joy is in the telling of the story. That is not to say that men are not interested in getting the details, because they often do want them, but only after getting the bottom line answer to their question. Men, however, experience this enjoyment as agitation, sometimes becoming very frustrated while waiting for the punch line or bottom line to the story.
The differences between men and women go far beyond the obvious.
Eye contact.
- On average, women maintain direct eye contact while speaking for twelve seconds vs. a man maintaining eye contact for three seconds.
For Ladies : Think about the last time you carried on a conversation with your husband. You likely maintained direct eye contact with him for several seconds at a time, before looking down or somewhere else in the room, before returning to direct eye contact for several more seconds. What if you were to change your approach by only maintaining direct eye contact with him for a
couple of brief seconds, perhaps looking away more often so he doesn’t feel like he’s been placed under a microscope? If you’ve ever experienced the feeling that comes with being stared at by someone for what seems like a very long time, you can then better understand how your husband or partner feels in these situations.
For Men: Think about the last time you were speaking with your wife or partner. How often did you look away, look down at your feet or back at the television or newspaper, while conversing with her? Is it any wonder then that she thinks you aren’t listening to her? She may even begin to raise the tone and volume of her voice to make sure you are even hearing her speak to you. What if you were to change your approach by increasing the number of seconds you maintain direct eye contact with her, perhaps giving some verbal signals to signify to her that you really are listening, occasionally leaning in towards her and physically touching her during conversation? She will love it! And she will
love YOU even more because she will know you are paying close attention to her every word, and won’t feel as though she’s being ignored.
(I AGREE, never once did he make eye contact, until I had to repeat it twice for him to look at me for less than 1 sec just to acknowledge and look away again... )
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN's VERBAL AND NON-VERBAL SIGNALSLADIES : When speaking amongst each other, women typically will give verbal signals that are often called “listening noises” such as, “Uh Huh“, “Really?”, “Are you kidding me?”, and so on. Women often physically lean in towards the other person, sometimes reaching out to touch the other woman while in the midst of conversation. Women are also known to do things “in packs“, such as when groups of women go to the restroom together at a restaurant, just because one woman in the group suggests it.
MEN : On the other hand, give more non-verbal signals while communicating with other men, perhaps nodding their head or smiling to signify they are listening. You are much less likely to
find a man leaning in towards or reaching out and touching the other man they are conversing with, and you certainly won’t find packs of men heading off to the restroom at the restaurant together like women do.
HOW DO MEN & WOMEN DECIDE THINGS DIFFERENTLY?How do men and women decide things differently?
Men and women also make decisions about things very differently, such as how each of the sexes go about asking for things they want or need. Remember, speak THEIR language, not your own. Women have been taught since childhood to use “hint language” when asking for something she wants or needs.
EXAMPLE : A woman may say, “Honey, wouldn’t be nice to go see a movie tonight”?, when she really means “I want to go see a movie tonight”.
(I AGREE, very selfish thinking of man. . . what. . . they think we hint it just as a suggestion for them to reject is it. . . so I rather sound demanding to get what I want then to hint to a pair of deaf ears and blind eyes. . . )Unfortunately, men often do not get the hint. This is due to the fact that “hint language” is not a part of a man’s language style, since men tend to take language very literally, focusing on the content of the message instead of hidden meanings. Given the question above, “Wouldn’t it be nice to go see a movie tonight”?, a man just might answer with an affirmative “No”, leaving the woman to wonder if her
husband or partner even cares about what she wants or needs.
